People want to help you…so let them!
There are very few times in your life that people will want to genuinely help you out, and having a baby is one of those moments….so let them. Friends and family will want to come over to visit with you and see your baby, what wrong with putting them to work or asking them to bring some food over. This is a time where you need to rest, relax and recover, so if some one offers you help…take it!
A little over a month ago, I arrived at a home where a family had just given birth. As I walked up to the door, I noticed a piece of paper taped to the door. It was announcing the birth of their baby……name, weight, length, and time of birth, but that wasn’t it. They went on to say how happy they were to receive visitors and how blessed they felt with being surrounded by all the love and warmth everyone were bring over. Next, they said something so genius yet so simply…..they asked for help. They ask if visitors saw dirty dishes in the sink to please wash them, if the floor needs a little sweeping to please do so, throw a load of laundry in the washer, clothes done washing throw it in the dryer, done drying please fold it, or bring some food over bought or hand made. When you have a baby, friends and family are always asking, “Is there anything I can do for you” and you should say YES to every single person that asks you. If you haven’t showered in 3 days please ask the person that is visiting to hold your baby or watch him or her while you take a shower.
I wish some one had told me that. It must had been some where between the 1st and 3rd week after I had my baby and a good friend of mine came over. We’d always hang out and make tacos together the only difference this time was I had a baby. Any ways, she came over sitting at the table while I’m in the kitchen making dinner and she says, “hey Val let me do the cooking” and I flat out told her, “ NO!…that’s cool I got it” and I refused to let her do it. My friend was well rested, she wasn’t getting up every 2-3 hours in the middle of the night to breast feed a baby, she hadn’t been dealing with a crying baby all day (my baby cried a lot), so why didn’t I let her help me???
In our every day lives we are use to hosting our friends and family when they come over to our homes. We feel good to offer a drink and have food prepared for our guesses, we want them to feel comfortable….that’s the unselfish thing to do right? But when you just have a baby it’s your turn….yep that’s right even in your own home. Let your friends and family come over to give you a breather, so that you can have a moment to collect yourself, so that you can sit down and eat with both hands, so that you can take a shower, or so that they can pamper you in whatever way you need. Remember if you hear the words, “is there some thing I can do for you”, do yourself the favor and say YES. If you don’t, you may regret it later just as I did.